My "elderly father'` has many mental problems ie dementia a,d a brain injury~~~.?

there isnt a night that goes by that dad doesnt decide to go at me in a heated argument loud enough to be heard by the people upstairs.he starts these chaotic fights and i have a short fuse and high blood pressure,im afraid of my father! when he comes home from visiting my mother whos in the hospital recouperating from a fractured hipbone,hes fine when he walks in here,but then he will find something to crow about and the poop hits the fan and the fights are on! hes thrown the wall phone reciever at me then i asked him why did you throw the phone at me and he said,no,you threw it at me! is this a form of mental abuse inflicted upon me by what i call a mentally deranged father. what do you think? i cannot call the police on my own father,but if he goes at me again? i will!

My "elderly father'` has many mental problems ie dementia a,d a brain injury~~~.?windows media

Oh dear, I am a doctor and I have worked with elderly and i know how you feel, this sort of problems are quiet common, a lot of it comes back to their previous personality problems and now when they get old and fragile plus other problems on the top puts them under a lot of stress.....when someone is unhappy and depressed this is the result...he or she starts abusing loved ones.....I think you need to make sure you do not abuse him as well.....I think when it gets to this stage it is better if you could live seperately.....this gives both of you some time....think about options that you can find somewhere else to live.....this is the first step...then try to find a way to provide him with help....he needs to take anti depressants and needs to talk to someone else to explain why he is unhappy and angry.....but I do not think it is a good idea to call police and that sort of things....as you said yourself he has dementia and would you think police can treat him? no....of course not....I do not know where you live but you can ask a social worker to help you ....there are a lot of social services for elderly in a lot of countries....if that is not the case at least you can seek help and go and talk to a social worker yourself.....but as I said if nothing works it is better you leave home....and stay away.

My "elderly father'` has many mental problems ie dementia a,d a brain injury~~~.?microsoft exchange internet explorer

I think it's time to trade in your "elderly father" now while he still has value.
He needs more help than you can give him. No matter what your brother says. It would be for dads own good, to get him the care that he needs.

God bless you both.